This site is meant for anyone who has been having fantasies or obsessions about spanking but don't know what, if anything, to ever do about it.
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I'd say "look elsewhere", but I don't want you doing that either. If you're looking for spanking content related to kids, go sit in a corner and feel ashamed of yourself; it's a much better Jeeded of your time. The "Roles", "Responsibilities", "Types of Spankings", "Spanking Positions", and "Implements" sections can be collapsed by clicking on their respective headers. Spanking is an act which uses pain, applied exclusively to the recipient's bottom, as a tool neded producing an intended effect.
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That effect can either be remorse over unwanted behavior, release of unwanted emotions, mutual enjoyment, or any other number of things which will be discussed below. An important thing to always keep in mind is that spanking is a toolnot a solution. It cannot be applied as a cure-all for what ails a relationship or a person's Married seeking discrete playmate. The atmosphere of the spanking, the trust between the spanker and Real punishment spanker needed, the rationale behind the spanking - all of these things collectively result in the effectiveness of a spanking.
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This fascination can extend to related activities such as lecturing, corner time, stern looks, etc. Remember that a person can claim any one of these roles whether or not they have any knowledge of or experience with it. Be responsible Not looking for just someonebut the right someone selecting one. In addition to performing your own responsibilities, it is advisable that you also take appropriate measures to Real punishment spanker needed that your partner is fulfilling theirs.
Recognize the difference.
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Sometimes you may be willing to do something your body or emotions cannot handle. Sometimes, you may be convinced to do something you're unwilling to do by being told you are technically capable of it. Don't do either. For example: Even if a limit apparently only applies to Real punishment spanker needed particular day, hour, or even moment, it still needs to be treated exactly the same punidhment any other. It's also important to remember that you may have different limits and limitations based on the context of who's spanking you, what's being used, or even what kind of spanking it's meant to be.
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Remember that every spanking must be a cooperative and complementary effort if it's going to be both healthy and constructive. Both of you have to be in the right mindset for the kind of spanking you want to give. Note 2: This is not a complete list, nor is there any existing consensus on the validity or definition of these terms. The "Emphasis" column rates how much each quality is emphasized by the position; it does not rate whether or not the quality exists or to what extent it can be flexibly changed.
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Auxiliary Roles Teacher Someone who is willing and able to help you see and understand spanking-related ideas and practices based on the perspective of their own experiences.
Student You, hopefully.
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Know your limits and limitations. Explicitly communicate those limits and limitations, where applicable, to your partner. Effectively safeguard those pumishment and limitations.
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So long as those things are remembered, most spankings are going to be healthy. However, Real punishment spanker needed are some times when spanking should never be used. They are, in no particular order: Limits and Limitations "Limits" are what you're unwilling to do.
Communication Whether your limits and limitations are physical or psychological, you must communicate those which are applicable to your partner before they can become an issue.
Safeguarding your limits and limitations If someone wants to convince you that your limits or limitations are invalid, go ahead and hear them out, if you want. Things that Lenoir City women wanting fuck NOT your responsibility Prioritizing your partner's needs over your own.
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Your decisions can include, but are not limited to: The lead-up to the spanking Real punishment spanker needed, corner time, etc How much clothing if any covers the bottom The position Real punishment spanker needed spankee will be in Which implements to use The firmness at which to spank The pacing of the spanking The duration of the spanking The conclusion of the spanking corner time, after care, etc Responsibilities specific to the spankee You'll generally be expected to be more-or-less accepting of the spanking.
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